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SUMMARY:Stephanie Fairyington at Harvard Book Store
DESCRIPTION:Harvard Book Store welcomes Stephanie Fairyington—journalist who writes on gender\, sexuality\, family\, and parenting—for a discussion of her memoir\, Ugly: A Letter to My Daughter. She will be joined in conversation by Abbie E. Goldberg—Professor in the Department of Psychology at Clark University in Worcester\, Massachusetts\, where she also serves as the Director of Women’s & Gender Studies and the Director of Clinical Training\, and the author of four books including\, LGBTQ Family Building.  \nAbout Ugly\nA tender\, moving\, and insightful account of queer motherhood and an interrogation of life on the margins of American culture as a self-described “ugly” woman.  \nUgly is a word with fangs that can kill a woman’s self-esteem in one bite. Edicts about how women should look\, behave\, and think are the brutal forge through which they are made — not born. And to defy the pretty imperative is to become invisible. It can be a hard thing to admit to yourself\, let alone to your child— to say the words\, “I am ugly\,” or “I am seen as ugly.” But early on in her motherhood journey\, watching her young daughter begin to wrestle with beauty standards\, Stephanie Fairyington felt compelled to face her own demons\, to unpack her own ugly self-perception\, one that she could trace to her own childhood\, in order to conquer this seemingly immoveable frontier\, far too taboo even among women to broach—the ways in which women’s lives are unfairly contoured by the nature of their looks. \nThe multiple iterations of ugliness that Fairyington saw in her young self—her physical appearance\, her unavoidably obvious queerness\, and her dissonant gender expression—are not present in her beautiful and traditionally feminine daughter. But Fairyington’s old feelings of inadequacy take on new meaning as she confronts fresh insecurities around her role as the non-biological mother in her relationship\, exacerbating wounds from a lifetime of being treated differently: from the poverty of her genetic inheritance to questions about her parentage to doubts about the legitimacy of her family. \nInterlacing cultural history and analysis with memoir\, Ugly is a probing investigation into cultural norms and the formation of our aesthetic sense of self. Fairyington contrasts her so-called ugliness with her daughter’s attraction and adherence to beauty ideals\, a tender and tenuous condition that by age seven she was already walking a tightrope to maintain. By sharing the history of her troubled self-image\, Fairyington invites us to go rogue\, to invent a new language and logic to overthrow all the ways that women have been cultivated to hate themselves.
URL:https://harvardsquare.com/event/stephanie-fairyington-at-harvard-book-store-2/
LOCATION:Harvard Book Store\, 1256 Massachusetts Ave\, Cambridge\, 02138\, United States
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